Asalam alaykum sisters. I want to share a short experience that happened on the day of my walima and it has stayed with me ever since then.
On the day of my walima, just before I stepped out in my dress to greet everyone, one of my friends offered me a few simple words of advice that I will never forget.
You see I was feeling excited about my wedding but I was also starting to get nervous. Everything was becoming too real. I had a lot of questions and I just didn’t know how I was supposed to handle the whole situation. (Yes I had tried google and I even worked in women’s health for years but I still felt unprepared!)
Anyway, my friend looked at me and she said:
“Sis, If your husband tries to speak to you, if he reaches for your hand or wants to give you a hug – don’t pull away, don’t be too shy. Be open. Be warm and welcoming. Let things progress naturally.“
When she told me this I felt a sense of relief. It was like clear direction and just what I needed from someone who had been there. AlhamduliLaah. Even now, years later, I still reflect on those words and her sincerity when she advised me.
Sometimes it’s the smallest things, sometimes we just need someone who understands. 💖
So I want to pass that advice on to you, dear sister. If you’re newly married or preparing for your wedding, remember to allow yourself to be soft and receptive. Be present, and be open to your new husband. Remember, he is not a stranger — and this is meant to be a time of happiness. So don’t overthink things. Just let it flow naturally.
If you’d love more advice, I’ve shared everything I wish I had known before my wedding night in my eBook, The Bride’s Amaanah – An Intimate Guide for the Muslimah Bride.
Inside you’ll find more heartfelt, real, honest, and practical advice. Look at what this sister said about The Bride’s Amaanah. ” I would recommend it for every woman getting married, or are newly married because it has helped me understand things I would be way TOO SHY to ask my mother despite me being close to her.